Hebrews 12:12-17 (ESV)
Therefore lift your drooping hands and strengthen your weak knees,  and make straight paths for your feet, so that what is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed.  Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord.  See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no "root of bitterness" springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled;  that no one is sexually immoral or unholy like Esau, who sold his birthright for a single meal.  For you know that afterward, when he desired to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no chance to repent, though he sought it with tears.
“that no one is sexually immoral or unholy like Esau, who sold his birthright for a single meal. For you know that afterward, when he desired to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no chance to repent, though he sought it with tears. “
Now here is some law. The writer here equates being sexually immoral as like selling your birthright for a single meal. Holiness is your birthright, it is yours by virtue of your birth by water and the Holy Spirit. There god made you Holy, there he sanctified you, made you innocent and righteous. “And such we some of you, but you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Cor. 6:11)
Sexual immorality though is a heinous sin. If infects the soul like no other. Paul talks about it as sinning against your own body. Here it is equated as selling your birth right for a bowl of porridge. I see it. To quote Dr. Laura “was the orgasm worth it”? I wonder that. Pastors deal with this stuff with so many. We see the aftermath. Sinning against your own body, and the two become one. If you love yourself, you love your wife. It is odd. We see sexual immorality, the quest for personal satisfaction as selfishness a perverted self love. Loving our flesh, we sin against our body. Perverted love is not love. Loving of one’s self is to have a bit of pride in who you are, Man, and Woman. You are not a dog, not even when it comes to sex. Why sell your birthright for a bowl of porridge, for an orgasm.
This is one of those things I don’t think we take adequate stock of these days, not in society, and not in church. We degrade ourselves. Sexual immorality is rampant in society. I don’t know if I have gotten prudish as of late or not. But the abuse of our young girls in society has begun to get me. It is abuse. The rampant pornography all over the internet is bad enough. It is odd, but as a man these days you have to work not to see pornography. Growing up my friends and I used to go through great lengths to find it. I don’t know that you can just expect a teenage boy to see that this stuff is wrong. And even seeing it as wrong is no guarantee that they won’t be attracted to it. I think the Jews of the Old Testament were probably on to something marrying off their children young.
But we abuse our girls when they are convinced that they are supposed to be doing this stuff with the boys, that they are no different. Rather than trying to convince our boys that they shouldn’t be doing this stuff at all if they want to grow up to be men. It is abusive to the girls when they grow up singing “video Phone” “3” etc.
And the fall out is worse. Our society is screwed. The boys and girls don’t even know how to be intimate with each other anymore. They don’t know how to love. They know how to have sex, but they don’t know how to love. They don’t know how to stay connected. They use and abuse each other. Sometimes they try the marriage thing, but they don’t know how to do it. They don’t know how to stay together. They end up going from one abusive relationship to the next, and the girls that grow up in that. Well let’s just say most of them need a lot of love, and a lot of healing, a lot of help before they can even learn to be wives, and mothers. And all because we convince our children that they should sell their birthright for a bowl of porridge.
Thankfully though, unlike for Esau, there is repentance, there is also grace and the love of God. He loves you more than you love yourself. He doesn’t withhold it from you. In Christ there is forgiveness. Oh there will be fall out for the choices we make. But he will hold on to you through thick and thin. And in Him we can learn to truly love, even ourselves.